Moving on isn't easy

I’ll be honest with you. Moving on isn’t easy. I’d think moving on is just a matter of putting the past behind us. I mean, you want to move on? Just forget about the past! Get over it. Look onward to the future. Keep yourself busy with other things.
Uh-uh – Not so easy. While these do help in some way, I realized there is more than meets the eye. No matter how hard I tried to push away the past, the past was always there, affecting the way I thought about myself, my decisions and actions.Often, we think we have moved on but we haven’t. Thinking you have moved on and having really moved on are two separate situations altogether. You continue to live under the shadow of that person or relationship without realizing it. You think you have been liberated but truth is you are still living in a mental prison as you keep thinking about the person and past memories. This prevents you from receiving new things in your life.


 signs to tell if you have not moved on:

- When you think of the person more often than not.

- When you think about him/her even though you don’t want to.

- When you keep mentally reliving past memories with him/her, usually the happy/sweet ones.

- When he/she comes to mind the first instant when you are down and out.

- When you still have questions and resignations about the past. You wonder what could have been or why didn’t it turn out a certain way.

- When you keep trying to improve yourself because you feel you were not good enough (for him/her).

- When you have a desire or urge to contact him/her even though you previously told yourself you didn’t want to.


Moving On takes time ..You must have time to really move on from your past relationship. To really forget the feelings you have from that person. You have to let go ..! (lilianmaeg)